Posts Tagged ‘kink’


I need to meet some vanilla guys with ponytails…Obviously

February 25, 2009

When it comes to the fetish world, I know I can’t judge anyone based on their outside appearance – I think it works most of the time when there’s a leash and collar involved but otherwise I’m just screwed. When I meet new people in the typical places,  I try to gauge them from some conversation usually to no avail (one friend just asks “what side of the coin are you on”, I envy his brazenness). Where am I going with this…

From the male subs I personally know, I’ve created a stereotype for just about all really tall, slim guys with ponytails.  It’s bad, it’s gotten so bad that now I see these types out and about and think they all have secretly longings to be caged or beaten or otherwise humiliated.  There’s one guy with a trench coat (of course he has a trench coat..) I see near my workplace and the thought of him quietly polishing my boots in a corner fills my heart with joy and spreads a mischievous grin across my face. Really, I should know better but friends like Lou (pictured below) just make it all that much harder for me to see these long haired guys as anything but submissives* Besides, racial stereotypes are sooooo last year, sexual lifestyle ones are all the rage especially as kink is getting extra popular these days.  And there are certainly worse stereotypes out there, yes?


I’ll try to stop myself from thinking, daydreaming, fantasizing such things about the trench coated guy, god I hate to be so narrow-minded as to stereotype within the BDSM community.

*But, for the record, EVERY SINGLE GUY I know with long hair is a kinky motherfucker, no lie


Looking for the Best Erotica, Due October 1st

September 22, 2008

So, the next carnival to be posted in a mere 8 days is centered on Erotica and Fetishes and so far I have a disappointing number of entries. I encourage all readers and bloggers to submit their favorite stories either found elsewhere on the internet or home-grown!

Nothing gets me going quite like a good, sexy story so I’m hoping for a better turn out!

Just click on the link below, put in the URL and you’re all done!



Preach it

August 11, 2008

My vagina gets lonely.

Misery loves company, eh?  So lets see how well the Hovarys keep up with the Joneses.

The Kinsey Institute has a helpful FAQ page for the curious among us.  I’d always thought national sex statistics were kind of depressing:

“18-29 year olds have sex an average of 112 times per year, 30-39 year olds an average of 86 times per year, and 40-49 year olds an average of 69 times per year” (Piccinino, Mosher, 1998).

Studies and anecdotal data indicate folks my age fuck twice a week, and it just goes downhill from there.  I always assumed tons of college kids were having tons of sex, as commonly depicted in mass media, but it seems a lot of folks spend most nights alone.

I don’t suppose I’m special, but I totally want a lifetime of great sex.  And I’m ambitious and pushy enough to try.

But I am on par with the Joneses.  Obviously I’d like my fucks per week index to inch upward, but early bedtimes and a commute to the BF are prohibitive.

But in three weeks, BF will move to an apartment three-quarters of a mile up the road.  And he’ll have his own room.  If I have my way, he won’t be able to walk in the morning.  I’m really excited.

I also like this statistic on kink: “55% of females and 50% of males reported having responded erotically to being bitten” (Kinsey, Martin, Gebhard, 1953).

This suggests a good half of us enjoy at least moderate amounts of pain (assuming that wasn’t a shark bite).  And yet, so many people seem shocked by kinky sex.

Well soldiers, keep fighting the good fight.  Spread that free love gospel.